Regards gentlemen, Enzo here, on the topic of eye contact. Today I’m going to break down eye contact into a science. We’re going to look at the ins and outs of good eye contact, and make certain that you are fully aware of what “strong eye contact” really means.
So lets begin with the basics.
MAKE DELIBERATE EYE CONTACT.
It doesn’t sound hard, but I’ve seen more than one guy dance around looking a girl in the eyes while talking to her. Dont let your eye contact be accidental, dont look to see if shes looking into your eyes first. Be deliberate. Look her in the eyes even when shes not reciprocating, this is a sign of dominance and comfort. Make sure to break eye contact every now and then because it will get weird after a while (assuming you guys are just talking, if you are escalating with the women, then strong prolonged eye contact is key).
Some guys get nervous and look away if they notice that she’s looking away. To break eye contact because of this is usually a bad thing; if you are talking to a girl and shes avoiding eye contact with you its because of one of two reasons.
1) You came on too strong, and you’re creeping her out. Dont sweat it if this happens, we’ve all had those moments. Just continue on assuming the best if you’re uncertain and excuse yourself politely if you know its your fault.
2) You came on strong and dominant, and now she’s really attracted to you. When a women finds you attractive she’ll go through the exact same emotions that you go through when you’re around a super hottie. She might avoid eye contact, trip over her own words, and be nervous because she’s worried that she might blow her chance with you.
Now the major thing to ensure that you’re in situation 2 all the time is to be COMFORTABLE with eye contact.
To make your eyes alone have the penetrating effect on women you’d like them to have, you have to first control yourself. You need to be relaxed, and comfortable despite the social pressure you may be feeling during the interaction. Fidgeting and shaky body language are going to make it hard for the girl to focus on your eyes, and thats where the magic is going to happen, so take time to pratice being very still and comfortable while making eye contact with people. Practice with all people first and in time you will be completely comfortable with making eye contact with beautiful women.
Another thing you guys can try to make yourselves more comfortable with eye contact-do this at your own discretion-is to go out for a night and make it your goal to hold strong deliberate eye contact while saying something that usually makes you uncomfortable. When you’ve locked eyes with people, you have no place to run. Usually people look away to say something that they’re nervous about. Forcing yourself to say things like this while locked in eye contact are going to desensitize you to the inherent pressures some people feel about holding good eye contact and make you more relaxed in talking about mundane topics.
HOW TO BREAK EYE CONTACT.
One of the biggest problems guys have with eye contact is feeling that they didnt come off as alpha during the eye contact. This usually has something to do with the way they broke the eye contact. There are three ways to break eye contact and each one has it’s own instinctual meaning.
1) You can break eye contact by looking down.
This is what the majority of guys out to meet women do, and they wonder why they feel bad about it. Breaking eye contact downwards is a sign of SUBMISSION. We look down when we are being scolded, we look down when we were in trouble as kids, we should not be breaking eye contact downwards with women we intend to charm. To break eye contact down tells the girl that you clearly dont think of yourself as good enough for her, and immediately all the attraction and tension you built up with your dominant eye contact disapears. Are you shooting yourself in the foot by doing this?
2) You can break eye contact by looking to the side.
To break eye contact to the side is a sign of neutrality. It is the way you want to be breaking your eye contact with 99% of the women that you encounter. It doesn’t show any dominant traits in you to break it this way, but it shows that all your deliberate eye contact and comfort aren’t just an elaborate front being put on by a submissive beta male.
3) You can break eye contact by looking up.
This is what most women do when the average guy tries to make eye contact with them accidentaly and then looks away. It is a sign of dismissal. You roll your eyes up and communicate to people that you are just too good for them. Again use this with your own discretion, but sometimes it can be helpful with super hotties to break eye contact up every now and then in a conversation, especially if she says things you dont like. This is only effective with the kind of girls that would use it a lot herself. If you do this to a nice receptive girl she’s going to think you’re an asshole, but if you use this technique on a smoking hot babe who thinks shes super exclusive it could build a lot of extra sexual tension between the two of you. A final note of caution; use this only in the beginning and very sparingly, let her work to win you over and then go back to being neutral.
THE RIGHT EYE IS FOR THE BEDROOM THE LEFT EYE IS FOR THE BOARDROOM
When talking business with your associates or potential clients, it is always best to look them in the left eye. The left eye is associated with your right brain-your critical and logical thinking brain. To do this helps to build trust and synergy on the task at hand. When flirting or going for a make out or getting to know a woman it is always best to look into her right eye. The right eye is in direct contact with the left brain which is the more emotional and abstract part of your brain, the part much more conducive to making things sexual.
Look deep into her right eye, be relaxed, hold firm eye contact and break it to the side every so often while holding a conversation and watch as mundane topics like “where she’s from” and “where you work” suddenly build massive attraction and sexual tension between the two of you. Dont worry about getting it all perfect, just give it a try and feel free to share any experiences or questions you have in the comments section.
Until next time gentlemen, Cheers.